Your Best Friend’s Husband on Tinder… Shhh or Rat Him Out?
I was scrolling through Tinder the other day and saw my best friend’s husband on it. There is no doubt that it was him. I have not heard her mention any problems with their marriage so I was shocked and in disbelief.
She has been my best friend since high school. I went to her wedding and am the godmother to her daughter. Should I tell her? I have no idea what is best in this situation.
Sorry, darlin’ but you are SOL no matter what you decide. You need a man of the cloth… any cloth: rabbi, priest, iman, sorcerer, fortune teller, or old woman who speaks Yiddish. There is no “best” in this situation. If you do tell her, you will probably break her heart and marriage and if you don’t tell you risk losing her friendship if she ever finds out you knew and did not tell. A rock and a hard place – take your pick or unexpectedly move to Switzerland.
I prefer honesty from best friends except about my hair color. In this case whip up a big pitcher of margaritas and some pot brownies to break the news. She will also need your shoulder.
I am a 67-year-old woman who has been dating a 74-year-old guy for over a year. I am, however, the oldest woman he has ever gone out with. I take extremely good care of myself with facials, injections, etc., but recently he asked me about my wrinkly neck. I don’t love how it’s aging but have not yet considered a neck lift. My boyfriend offered to pay for one. I don’t know if this is insulting or generous.
What do you think?
Ginny, New York City Girl
Well, sugar if you don’t want one, give him my number, because I do! I am haunted by my turkey (gobble gobble) neck and would love a perk-me-up. Necks are the biggest tell-tale sign of age no matter how many fillers, botox injections or face lifts you’ve had. They are the big reveal.
I do, however, understand your conflict as it is a blessing and a curse offer. If he is used to going out with much younger women and the offer is to make you look more like the arm candy he’s accustomed to taking out, thus feeling better about himself — Insult. Au contraire, if he thinks it will make you happy and feel better about yourself — Generous.
Darlin’, if you think a neck lift is in your cosmetic future, forget what the motive is… it’s free! I suggest you find the name of Diane Sawyer’s or Lesley Stahl’s plastic surgeon and make an appointment. ASAP.
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