Carl Honoré knows a thing or two about aging boldly; he wrote a book on it. Here are his simple 12 rules for living a bold life.
- Keep on learning and experimenting. The adage that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks isn’t even true of dogs. Novelty keeps you energized and engaged.
- Cultivate strong relationships.
- Draw inspiration from role models. Think Helen Mirren, David Attenborough or even Michelangelo, who rebuilt St Peter’s Basilica in his 80s.
- Keep brain and body fit by exercising and eating right.
- Channel Marie Kondo. If something – a job, a friendship, etc – no longer sparks joy, drop it. Streamline to make every moment count.
- Find a purpose that puts meaning in your life and fire in your belly.
- Be honest about your age. Lying gives the number a power it does not deserve – and reinforces the myth that younger is always better. Owning your age is the first step to making the most of it.
- Remain flexible and open to change, growth and evolution. As Lao Tzu put it: “Whoever is soft and yielding is a disciple of life. The hard and stiff will be broken. The soft and supple will prevail.”
- Ignore the doom-mongers who say sex, love and romance belong to the young: they do not. Make room for all three however old you are, if that’s what you fancy.
- If you think growing older will be bad, it will be bad. Be positive and focus on the upsides of aging: feeling more at ease in your own skin, deeper relationships, more happiness, altruism, creativity, knowledge, experience.
- Cultivate a sense of humour. Laughing boosts health and longevity. As George Bernard Shaw put it: “You don’t stop laughing when you grow old, you grow old when you stop laughing.”
- Think about death. Don’t dwell morbidly on it, but don’t shy away from it, either. An awareness that time is finite gives life shape and meaning – and spurs you to make the most of here and now.
We profiled Carl Honoré here last week.
So happy to discover Carl’s work – I think, because of his wisdom, I am finally no ready to own my age.
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As I was saying, Carl has totally changed my thoughts on getting older. I can now happily own my 50 years and applying his 12 rules is shifting my thinking massively. If you haven’t read Bolder, make sure you get to it ASAP.