Build a Network

If you are looking for a new job, to change careers, or just to have a more satisfying, engaged life, you need a network — a robust, ever-expanding network.  There is a tendency with age to let our networks diminish, and with it our skill at making new ones.  As people fall out of our networks, we often don’t replace them and the network languishes in size and power.

We hear all sorts of reasons for this, but they basically come down to this: we get scared of making new friends and connections, we judge too quickly, we are quick to ask, ‘What’s in it for us?’ and less quick to ask, ‘What can we contribute?’

Hard is not impossible.

This week it’s about expanding the network. Some of you out there are super pro at this, but for some it is really hard. So how to begin? Let’s borrow from one of my all time top 3 books, How to Win Friends and Influence People: The next time you are in an elevator, or a check-out line, notice the person next to you, be curious about them, and immediately comment on something about them you like: “Nice shoes, where did you get them? …That’s so interesting.” Then leave it at that unless your new friend wants to speak more. You just improved this person’s day, you just took a small step to increasing your network, and this person has now lodged you in his mind as someone they can easily speak with.  The same goes for online networks. Think about: What can I contribute? How can I be helpful and thoughtful? When can I say yes to something? One step at a time. Opt for more real-world face-to-face connection with people you have never met, rather than Facebook and its algorithm-mitigated silos of like-minded friends. It’s a risk to reach out, but every time we say yes and take a chance on someone new we get stronger.

See medical disclaimer below. ↓

The ideas expressed here are solely the opinions of the author and are not researched or verified by AGEIST LLC, or anyone associated with AGEIST LLC. This material should not be construed as medical advice or recommendation, it is for informational use only. We encourage all readers to discuss with your qualified practitioners the relevance of the application of any of these ideas to your life. The recommendations contained herein are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. You should always consult your physician or other qualified health provider before starting any new treatment or stopping any treatment that has been prescribed for you by your physician or other qualified health provider. Please call your doctor or 911 immediately if you think you may have a medical or psychiatric emergency.

David Stewart
David is the founder and face of AGEIST. He is an expert on, and a passionate champion of the emerging global over-50 lifestyle. A dynamic speaker, he is available for panels, keynotes and informational talks at david@agei.st.


Sign up for AGEIST today
We will never sell or give your email to others. Get special info on Diet, Exercise, Sleep and Longevity.

Recommended Articles


LATEST Profiles

Latest in Health Science