David
Welcome to the Since You Asked Show. My name is David Stewart. I am the founder of AGEIST magazine.
Susan
Hi, my name is Susan Guidi. I’m a 66-year-old competitive bodybuilder and standup comic.
Rob
Hi, my name’s Rob Angel. I’m the creator of Pictionary, traveler and explorer.
David
And since you asked, we’re going to answer your questions. Welcome to Since You Asked. So let’s check in on our famous advisors today. Susan, how are you?
Susan
I am doing so great despite the rainy day here in Florida. That’s just my personality.
David
You’re always great.
Susan
I’m always great.
David
Okay. Well, let’s go to the counterpoint to that. Rob, how are you today?
Rob
I’m fine. I’m fine. I’m good, man. Sunshine. I went for a walk. Yeah, life’s good. It’s good, wonderful.
David
Yeah, wonderful. What are your options, right? What are your options exactly? I like Susan’s option. Like, just be great. You get to pick.
So, today we have a question. Okay. This is something that happens all the time, and you know, it’s uncomfortable. Let’s talk about it. “I was at a dinner party last night and, when we were alone, a married man was flirting with me. It was inappropriate. Do I say something to his wife?” And this is a woman who wrote in. Susan, you probably have experience with this. What do we do with this pesky fellow?
Susan
I do have a lot of experience with this one because I’ve been single for a long time and, for some reason, it’s often an open invitation for men to sort of take a bit of flirtatious liberties. I would say that I would not say anything to the woman. I just don’t think that it’s necessary. I think a lot of men are pretty blustery and sort of talk a big game.
And for me as a comedian and sort of being really happy in my own skin, I have a lot of fun. I will say that unless you’re taking them seriously, what’s wrong with a little flirtation? Right? I think you can have a little banter.
Rob
Who’s to say what flirting is, right? It may just be the way they are. And so that’s where you start telling on people and you start saying, “Well, you know, so-and-so did so-and-so.” It may not have been what you think. So rat people out or throw them under the bus or really ruin a friendship? Probably not worth it.
David
I think there’s a line here; like, I’m a very flirty guy. I flirt with men. I flirt with women. That’s just sort of how I am. But I’m not going to say, like, “Hey, give me your phone number. What are you doing next week?” Like, that’s sort of a different thing, right?
Rob
That’s not flirting. Once you start asking for numbers, that’s when you’ve crossed a line for sure.
Susan
And it also takes two to tango. Why does the woman become this just delicate flower that doesn’t have any power in saying, “Oh, he’s flirting with me, I must respond.” I think in a way, that’s sort of BS. You know, you can stand up. I think just like you, Rob, I flirt with the entire world. I think that’s always been my M.O. And now that I’m older and more confident, I take more liberties.
But if he’s flirting with you, if you say, “Oh, sure, I’ll meet you in the back bedroom,” that’s a whole different, you know, scenario.
Rob
But what was your response to that question?
Susan
Most of the time I’m like, “You’re just talking shit.” I mean, come on.
Rob
And it takes two to tango. Women and men are giving off a vibe but, all of a sudden, the energy starts rising, and then all of a sudden, shit starts happening. So you’ve got to be careful, but you’ve got to have fun. It shouldn’t stop you from just being you having fun and just a quick “Shut the fuck up, we’re done talking” and move on.
Susan
Exactly. Yeah.
David
Well, I think the difference here is that we’re adults and, you know, we understand how to play and what boundaries are and we don’t have these sort of rigid things, right? You can, like, have fun and you can give flattery or attention to a woman at a party without saying like, “Hey, you want to go have an affair?” This is a whole different thing, right?
Rob
No, David, I don’t want to have an affair with you. That’s kind of my point. You just said something without any intention, and so you got to pay attention to what the intention is, and that’s all it is. We’re adults.
David
I get the other side of it, too. So, I get it at the grocery store. I get it, like, people who know me, I get a lot of attention. And my wife, who’s always near me, was initially sort of like, that’s weird. But now she’s just amused by the whole thing because I just never take any of it seriously.
Susan
You’re not acting on it. I will say that, in the past, I think the experience of telling a woman about her husband never ends well. It just doesn’t end well. So there’s just no need unless you want to pursue it, which is, in my case, not the case. I think married men for me are just… I don’t want to share. I don’t want to share my toys.
David
Your toys. Okay. Well, we know where we men stand in your category. Toys.
Rob
Now, I know where this whole thing is going. I don’t want to be the boy toy. I haven’t been one in a very long time.
David
Susan wants a new toy. Okay, I’ll tell you what: for any anyone out there in the audience, if you’re looking, Susan is single so you can sign up for toy. So thank you, guys. We’ll see everybody next week for another question for Since You Asked. Rob, stay out of trouble. No hospitals, no jails. Okay?
Rob
I just keep driving by.
David
Exactly. Okay. Take care, guys.
