Coffee Is Not a Red Carpet Event
Generally my first dates are for coffee or lunch. I always tell the woman to feel comfortable and dress casual. I’ve had several women arrive in faded jeans, sandals, or t-shirts. Yes, they may feel comfortable, but what does that say about what they think about me or dating that they can’t bother to dress appropriately?
Well for sure I could never go on a date with you as I still wear my COVID sweat pants out for coffee. It seems you have a very specific definition of the word “appropriate.” My question to you is, how would anyone know what it is? And you did say the word “casual” which could easily mean jeans, sandals and t-shirt, unless it’s high tea at Windsor Castle.
I have had men arrive in embarrassingly tight gym shorts, baggy old sweat pants, and clothes entirely covered in Blackhawk logos (that was award winning but horrifying). I passed judgement on them for having really bad taste and no mirrors, but did not take it personally.
I say coffee is a fashion throw away. Start with a first date for dinner at the Peninsula and get back to me.
Dogs Are Definite Date Bait
What do you think of dog parks as a way of meeting men? I’ve heard guys say dog parks are “chick magnets” but is the reverse true? Are dog parks “guy magnets”? Do you have any luck with this?”
BINGO! I had so much luck out with my Golden Retriever Jonah I found a husband attached to a Golden Retriever named Lancaster. We had matching dogs, politics, and were from the same suburb of Chicago while meeting in the middle of Central Park. It was the dog trifecta. And still makes a good story regardless of the divorce.
Dogs are man bait trust me, darlin’. Everyone out walking a dog wants to talk especially about their pooch. Just start with “what a cute dog.” Don’t stop there! Say something else, anything else, just keep chatting. A sports reference is definitely man bait and usually fool proof. Ex: “How about that Bear game Sunday? They sucked.”
Make a big fuss over his dog which hopefully isn’t mauling or humping yours.
Good luck arffffffff
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